Welcome to the next installment in my self-love series! Not sure what series I’m talking about? Well I’m dedicating the whole month to talking about self-love, why it’s da bomb, and how to create more of it in your life!
So last week we talked all about how to love ourselves (specifically lessons my shower taught me). So hopefully we’re all feeling the love and ready to take the next step…yeah. I’m talking marriage.
Now before you get your knickers in a wad, let me start by saying this: no, you aren’t moving too fast. It is never too early to marry yourself, girlfriend! Because you deserve a wonderful, loving, fulfilling relationship with yourself, right freaking now!You deserve a wonderful, loving, fulfilling relationship with yourself, right freaking now! Click To Tweet
So let’s get into how we can fall madly in love with ourselves and how that love can be a beautiful marriage!
How To Fall Madly in Love with and Marry Yourself
Any good marriage starts off with a strong foundation – dating. Now I’m not gonna lie; I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years aka before the upswing of Tinder, Bumble, and all these other dating apps (there’s now one involving Bagels? Idk. It all confuses me). But I do know (thanks to my single pringle friends) that’s it’s rough out there in the dating world.
But girl, it’s time to swipe all the way right on yourself.It’s time to swipe all the way right on yourself! Click To Tweet
Stop saying there’s not enough time for you. There’s never going to be enough hours in the day to get done everything that needs to get done.
Stop saying you need to focus on your career or family or friends. There will always be something else asking for your attention.
And please, for the love of all that is good in this world, stop saying that you aren’t worth it. Because I’m telling you right now – you, all your flaws and mistakes and imperfections, are irrevocably worth loving.
So why not start with committing to love on yourself?
2. …And Date Yourself Well
I’m not just talking casually date yourself girl. Ain’t nobody got time for that when it comes to self-love! I really want for you to think about the things that you need and value in a relationship with someone else. For me, it’s open communication, acts of service, and quality time. And then make sure that you are giving yourself those things!
So I’m working on being open and honest with myself. If I’m anxious, I admit it. If I’m sad, I console myself. And I also make sure I’m making time for self-care which is me serving myself well and spending quality time with good ol’ me!
If you don’t know what you need, then try taking the 5 Love Languages Test. It’s usually used for couples, but just take your results and apply them to your relationship with yourself!
3. Write Your Vows
Now we’re getting to the good stuff – writing your vows. This is something that I first heard about from Alexis Jones in her book I Am That Girl. She talks about creating your own personal manifesto – basically a list of positive, active statements about how amazing you are and the wonderful things you are capable of. For an idea of what I’m talking about, here’s an excerpt from my own manifesto:
I am unapologetically myself
I do not shy away from challenges and new experiences, in fact I welcome them into my life
I surround myself with people that inspire me, challenge me, and grow with me
I put myself first, doing what I know needs to be done for my own wellbeing first and foremost
I bring positivity to the table as often as I can
I treat myself with kindness and forgive myself for mistakes and indiscretions
They’re basically promises I make to myself, my own personal vows. And like any vows, sometimes I’m now the best at upholding them. But they are the commitments I’ve made to myself, and that sure as hell keeps me motivated to keep working at them!
4. Celebrate Your Love
Basically, this is where you par-tay! This might look different for each person. Maybe you through a party for yourself – invite a few friends over to your place for some drinks and to watch cheesy romance movies. Or maybe you through yourself a legit party with balloons and streamers and champagne. Or you could just buy yourself your favorite dessert, and sit at home in your robe after a long bath. Whatever you do, just celebrate yourself in a way that makes you feel good, whole, and happy.Looking to fall in love with yourself? Then don’t forget step number 4 on this list! Click To Tweet
I know a legit honeymoon vacation isn’t a possibility for everyone, but one of the things that I have found to be the most beneficial for me is taking time to be by myself. Last year, I took a solo vacation. I went and stayed in a cabin, and just watched Netflix, took pictures, explored; and I was next level happy!
Now, I try to take a random day or two off from work every few months. I don’t always go somewhere, and sometimes I don’t do anything special. It’s just time to myself, away from all the craziness of life. I check in with myself, check in on my vows, and show myself that my marriage with me is still strong as can be.
And at the end of the day, I look in the mirror and tell myself: “I liked it, so I put a ring on it.” (You really didn’t expect to get away without a Beyonce reference, did you?!)
Until next time,
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